When going natural there are some very deadly sins. Here are what I call the “Deadly sins of going natural.”
- Comparing your hair to that of others. This does not apply just to naturals, this applies to anyone, and everyone, with hair on his or her head. Comparing your hair to your best friend’s hair, or even your sister’s hair, will get you absolutely nowhere. Everyone’s hair is different. No matter what you do your hair will never look like Tracee Ellis Ross’s. Your TWA will not look like Viola Davis’s. Your pixie cut will not look like Halle Berry’s or Michelle Williams’s. This does not mean there is anything wrong with your hair. Just accept what your hair is, and stop comparing it to everyone else’s. Find out what is best for you and your hair and go with it.
- Keeping protective styles in too long. Yes, yes, I know. That style is SUPPOSED to last a couple of weeks, some may even claim to last a couple of months. But that doesn’t mean that’s the real deal. Just because your friend was able to keep box braids in all summer, doesn’t mean that you can do the same, and vice versa. Always consult with your stylist about how long YOUR style should last and abide by that.
- Not seeking professional help. Some people love going natural via YouTube videos and shea butter. I was not one of those people, and honestly, I do not recommend it. A stylist can make all the difference. First let me establish something, I have never colored or relaxed my own hair and do not recommend that you ever do any chemical treatment on your own hair. Especially if it is fragile and damaged. So do some research and find a stylist. If you’re not sure if your current stylist deals with natural hair, ask! You’ll probably be surprised. My stylist roller sets, presses, colors, and cuts my natural hair, but I had to find someone else to go to for protective styling. I’m okay with that, it works for me.
- Product Addiction. Not only is this a waste of money, you’re basically ending up with a lot of gunk in your hair. Yes, you have to try products in the beginning to find what is best for you. When possible, purchase sample sizes. Also, attend natural hair events where you can swap gently used products. Further, once you find what works, stop! Stick to what you like. Do you use a million different types of soap or deodorant? I doubt it. You don’t have to overdo it on hair products either. The only thing I switch up is shampoo and conditioner.